As the parent of two young Mexican-American football players competing professionally in Europe. We have walked the winding, often unpredictable road of raising aspiring athletes. We have watched two boys -and a girl- chase a shared dream across cities, states, and continents. And, if there’s one truth we have learned along the way, it is that talent is just the beginning.
Natural ability on and off the ball matters a lot, but talent alone is never enough to reach the professional level. If you are a parent supporting a young football player with big dreams (who isn’t?), there are critical traits often unseen on the stat sheet that are just as important, if not more so, than raw skill.
Let me walk you through some key traits that make the difference between good, and better, and how you as a parent, can help nurture them. These traits apply to many sports. In fact, they apply to many walks of life.
Growth Mindset: Belief that ability can improve
Kids who believe that abilities can be developed (rather than fixed) are more likely to seek challenges and persist through difficulties. Those who are disciplined to enhance existing abilities and develop new ones have a greater chance of success. A few years ago, during COVID, I wrote this article about a growth mindset and GRIT. It is still very valid…
How parents can help: Avoid labeling your child as a “natural” or saying they were “born talented”. Instead, say thinks like, “You worked hard on that move” or “Your improvement in passing really shows your dedication.”.
Resilience: The art of bouncing back
Lack of playing time, injury, cuts from teams, and bad performances are all part of the journey. What separates those who make it from those who do not is the ability to bounce back: resilience.
How parents can help: Do not shield your child from failures; help them process it. Encourage honest reflection and foster a home environment where setbacks are viewed as learning experiences, not the end of the road.
Grit: The power of passion + perseverance
Coined by psychologist Angela Duckworth, “grit” is a blend of sustained passion and long-term effort. Gritty players keep pushing when the initial motivation fades (ex. during cold practices, bench time, and long travel days).
How parents can help: Praise effort, not just results. Celebrate the process and remind your child that every hour on the pitch (even the tough ones) is an investment in their in their dream.
Perseverance: Sticking with it, even when it’s hard
This goes hand-in-hand with grit. Whether it’s staying motivated through long seasons, navigating coaching changes, or being away from home, perseverance is key.
How parents can help: Offer emotional consistency. Your child needs to know that your love and support don’t depend on performance. Let your home be their anchor.
Passion: The internal drive that fuels the fire
You can’t fake passion. Kids who truly love the game will play when no one’s watching (integrity), train when no one asks, and watch matches with intent to learn.
Close up of a female soccer team celebrating a scored goal
How parents can help: Don’t force the dream. Let your child lead the way. Your role is to support their passion, not to manufacture it.
Sacrifice: Giving up to go up
Becoming a professional footballer requires difficult choices. Social events, free time, and even traditional schooling paths might need to be adjusted to support elite training and competition.
How parents can help: Model sacrifice in your own life and frame it positively. Teach your child to value long-term goals over short-term pleasures. Make sure the sacrifices align with their dreams and not just yours.
Adaptability: Thriving in constant change
A pro football journey is short and often means new teams, new coaches, new countries, and new languages. Adaptability is what keeps players steady in the face of uncertainty.
How parents can help: Encourage independence from an early age. Let your child handle adversity and discomfort. International tournaments, cultural exchanges, or short stints away from home can be powerful preparation.
Coachability: Willingness to learn and change
Even the most gifted players will not succeed without taking feedback and applying it. Humility and openness to learning are crucial.
How parents can help: Model a growth-oriented attitude toward learning in your own life. Encourage respectful relationships with coaches. Help your child reflect after games or sessions, rather than rushing in with critiques.
The Journey is Yours
As a parent, your role isn’t to scout the perfect club, hire the best trainer, or push your child harder. Your job is to guide, support , believe and to help your child develop the traits that will serve them not only in football but in life.
Big Journeys Begin With Small Steps sign
Professional football is a narrow path, but it is NOT reserved for the most naturally gifted. It is open to those who are relentless, resilient, disciplined, and ready for the long haul. Help your child become one of them.
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And just like that, the first quarter of this century has banished and we start the next one..as anticipated in the 2023 in hindsight for the Gomez’s publication, this year needed to have a decreased emphasis on traveling and a pronounced focus on health and that’s what we did. In the process, we managed to partake in a few running races.
On the other hand, our “eyes” did not anticipate witnessing much beyond sports but as luck would have it, not only did we witness our 2nd full Solar Eclipse (first in 1990 in Mexico City) but also witnessed our first Space X launch (with its booster catch included) live. These events will live in our hearts forever.
Spacex launch prep V: 10.13.24
This year also marked the beginning of an action packed football (soccer) events leading up to the 2026 Men’s and 2027 Women’s World Cups respectively. The first half of the year was benevolent with our family while the second half tested our resilience. This is how our year went down…
January
Personal
The year started strong for Joana in football. Her club team captured the first championship Showcase they participated in Florida.
Joana – College ShowCase
On January 12th, we traveled to Orlando for Joana’s first out of town showcase tournament. Four days later, and after five 80-minutes games played, her team returned home with the championship hardware.
National
On January 9th, the Michigan Wolverines defeated the Washington Huskies (who had in turn defeated my longhorns) by a score of 34-13 in the NCAA National Championship game played at the Cowboys AT&T stadium in Arlington, Texas (our backyard).
Global
Tennis
On January 27th, Belarusian Aryna Sabalenka won the 2024 women’s Australian Open defeating Chinese sensation Zheng Qinwen in straight sets. In 2023, she had also won the prestigious tournament. If you haven’t read her story, I encourage you to do so.
On January 28th, after being down to Daniil Medvedev the first two sets 3-6, 3-6. Italian 22 year-old Jannik Sinner took the next three sets in an epic comeback to win his first Men’s Grand Slam: the Australian Open. In the semifinals, he had previously defeated Novak Djokovik. Jannik Sinner would go on to win the US Open in September. Unfortunately for Medvedev, he has lost a total of 6 Grand Slam finals portrayed below.
Grand Slam finals lost by Daniil Medvedev
Football
On January 5th, shortly after the one year anniversary of Pele’s death (December 29th, 2022), the world of football suffered another great loss as Brazilian legend Mário Lobo Zagallo died at age 93. The “Lobo” is the winningest footballer having won the FIFA World Cup four times. He won it in 1958 and 1962 as a player, he won it again in 1970 as a manager and in 1994 as assistant manager. He was the first of three footballers to have won the Men’s FIFA World Cup as player and manager. The other two are Frenchman Didier Deschamps and German Franz Beckenbauer.
On January 8th, the world of football legends suffered yet another great loss as German superstar Franz Bekenbauer died at age 78. The “kaiser” (the emperor) as he was known not only won the 1974 FIFA World Cup as captain of his national team but he also won it as a manager in 1990 in Italy. He started his career playing as a midfielder but his best years occurred while playing as a central defender.
February
Personal
After a long and arduous document gathering process, I traveled to Spain to ensure all paperwork was properly handled and submitted.
National
The Smokehouse Creek Fire, the largest wildfire on record in the state of Texas (and second in the US up to that point) burned 1.1 million acres (approximately 426,600 hectares). It started on February 26 in Hutchinson County and rapidly spread across multiple counties. Governor Gregg Abbott declared it a national emergency.
Global
Superbowl
On February 11th, while in Germany visiting Johan, the Kansas City Chiefs rallied to defeat the San Francisco 49ers in overtime by a score of 25-22 in Super Bowl LVIII (58th). Texas native (and neighbor) Patrick Mahomes was named, for the second straight year, the MVP of the game. The Chiefs became back to back Super Bowl Champions and started what some predict could become a dynasty.
The halftime show, featuring Rihanna, reached a high of 118.7 million viewers. As usual, the commercials stole “the show”.
March
March was a month full of basketball record breaking events.
Personal
U23 – US Olympic Soccer
Johan was called for the third consecutive time to the U23 US National team in preparation for the Summer Olympics in Paris 2023. Jonathan was also called; however, once again, CD Mirandés’ Sporting Director did not release him.
Note: CD Mirandés was in the middle of a close race to retain the class. When asked about the lack of a release, Sporting Director Alfredo Merino stated that he could grant Jonathan the release in exchange for a signed pre-contract with Mirandés for the 2024-2025 season (which RS would have had to approve anyway). We of course, opted to sacrifice the U23 call-up (and possibly the Olympics) on account of not getting in trouble with Real Sociedad. Truth be told, the experience with CD Mirandés has been the best so far in Europe. We would go back there any day.
After a solid season in her second year of varsity, Joana made the All-State 1st team as a sophomore.
National
The month was marked by record breaking events. Side note: Ironically, we normally end up talking about the March Madness conclusion in April.
Basketball
On March 7th, after winning back to back national women’s basketball association (NWBA) championships in 2022 and 2023, the Las Vegas Aces, announced that the entire 2024 season had been sold out. This is unprecedented in league history.
Caitlin Clark
On March 1, Caitlin Clark breaks the all-time NCAA Division I college basketball career scoring record that had been held by Pete Maravich with 3,685 points She proceeded to shatter the record in her senior year amassing a total of 3951 points and 548 three-pointers leading all D1 (men’s and women’s) programs. She decided to forego a fifth year of eligibility (due to COVID in 2019) to declare for the WNBA draft.
Global
On March 2nd, Lebron James becomes the first NBA player to reach 40,000 points against the Denver Nuggets.
April
Personal
On April, 20th, Johan scored an important goal against Vfl Osnabruk to help his club be in the hunt to preserve the class in the 2.Bundesliga. Being his first season in the German second division, his playing time (and production) was always impactful starting most games in multiple positions. Most importantly, he did not sustain any major injuries which is always the priority as a professional player.
National
March Madness
On April 8th, the 2024 NCAA March Madness tournament came to an end. UConn defended its 2023 title by defeating the Purdue Boilmakers by a score of 75 to 60 (2023 score was 76 to 59) to claim the 2024 NCAA national title.
This was the 6th championship for the Huskies men’s basketball program. As a side note, my running horns made it to the Round of 32 before collapsing against the other orange guys: The University of Tennessee.
Global
Solar Eclipse
On April 8th, I got to witness the second fully solar eclipse in my life. Back on July 11th, 1990 in Mexico City, I had witnessed the first one but this one was more special as I witnessed it with family.
May
Personal
Eintracht Braunschweig:
On May 12th, in a must-win game, Eintracht Braunschweig retained the Bundesliga.2 class by beating SV Wehen Wiesbaden by a score of 1-0. After a first long arduous season playing in the 2nd division in Germany, Johan secured playing with the club another year which in June was extended given his good form.
ECNL:
Joana’s team finished the 2023 – 2024 in first place once again. She continued her soccer maturity and high school soccer helped a lot. Her minutes and contributions were solid. We are very proud of the footballer she’s becoming.
On May 19th, the final day of the season, Manchester City beat West Ham United 3–1 at home to become the first club in Premier League history to win four consecutive titles. They won the title with 91 points – two points ahead of their title rivals Arsenal, who defeated Everton 2–1 at home. Arsenal finished runners-up with 89 points, becoming the third-best second-placed team in the history of the Premier League.
June
The beginning of the second half of the year started out in a brutal way for the family.
Personal
Mirandés:
On June 2nd, Jogo played his last game of the season where CD Mirandés secured the class. In a home game of “winner retains the class”, Mirandés defeated SD Amorebieta by the score of 1-0 and guaranteed another year in the 2nd division in Spain.
Joana
Joana tore her ACL in her second game of the ECNL playoffs. After surgery (almost a month later), she was told the expected recovery time was about 6 – 9 months. Our summer plans changed radically but more so her soccer year and just like that, the road to recovery started…no pain, no gain.
National
NBA
On June 17th, in the fifth game of the NBA finals, the Boston Celtics defeated our hometown team the Dallas Mavericks. It was a carbon copy of the 2023 finals where the Denver Nuggets also won the NBA finals over the Miami Heat in five games. As most would expect, Serbian center Nikola Jokic was named MVP of the finals.
MLB
On June 18th, the world of baseball lost one of the greatest athletes to have ever played the game. Willie Mays, passed away in his home in California due to a heart failure.
Global
On June 9th, Carlitos Alcaraz won his first major of the year: French Open. Despite winning two major Grand Slams in 2024 (including Wimbledon), the year finished in a frustrating manner after losing the Olympics final to Novak Djokovic, and being knocked out early of the US Open.
July
Personal
Paris Olympics
Johan was selected to the 22-men roster for the US Olympic soccer team. I traveled to Marseille, France to meet up with him (for his birthday mostly) for the first two group stage games. (Un)fortunately, that’s what his club allowed him to participate in. It was a magnificent experience playing against the host nation for the opening game and witnessing the atmosphere live.
National
On July 14th, Argentina won the Copa America for a 16th time. This time, the defending champions defeated Colombia in overtime by a score of 1-0. The final game was played at the Hard Rock Stadium in Miami under a complete lack of logistical organization.
Global
President Trump
On July 13, 2024, Donald Trump, back then the presumptive nominee of the Republican Party in the 2024 presidential election, survived an assassination attempt while speaking at an open-air campaign rally near Butler, Pennsylvania
Euros
On July 14th, the football world was paralyzed to watch the Euro final between Spain and England in Germany. In a highly close match, Spain eventually prevailed by a score of 2-1. In the 86th minute of the game, then Jogo’s Real Sociedad teammate Mikel Oyarzabal scored the match winner giving Spain its 2nd Euro Cup.
August
Personal
There were offers that came in from some Liga Mx clubs for Jogo whose value artificially inflated his market value. Those immediately impacted Real Sociedad Sporting Director’s (Roberto Olabe) greed and future for Jogo. After a successful pre-season with the first team which included a tour in Japan; it was evident that first team Coach along with Roberto were seeking financial remuneration prior to Jogo’s last contract year. As a result, Jogo expressed his desire to continue in the Spanish market; however, Roberto blocked the offers that did come in from La Liga 2 clubs mostly and a couple from La Liga, thus forcing Jogo to look elsewhere. When Jogo refused to return to Mexico, Roberto made his (and other players such as Roberto Navarro under a similar situation) lives miserable.
Roberto Olabe (Sporting Director), Imanol Alguacil (Head Coach) and Jokim Aperribay (President). Three characters…
We are very grateful with Real Sociedad as the club provided Jogo his first European opportunity. In the end, we know that people come and go and clubs endure the passage of time. Some people however, can certainly impact a club’s reputation. Greed is a horrible thing…
Right before the market closed in September, Olabe finally allowed (thanks to a hefty transfer fee paid by PAOK FC), a transfer to an unimaginable league for us, but at last, escaped Roberto’s constant abuse of players who didn’t align with his financial initiatives. Currently, we are still struggling to find our footing in a foreign market that we were forced into.
On August 25th, the Columbus Crew defeated Los Angeles FC (3-1) to win the 4th edition of the Leagues Cup. For the second consecutive year using this format, an MLS club prevailed over Liga MX clubs.
Global
Olympics:
On August 11th, the Paris 2024 Olympics came to an end. It was an unforgettable month of sports with many memories made. Here is the final medal tally.
Among the most notable moments were these: The inagural ceremony at the Rhine river on a rainy Friday night, Nadal vs Djokovik match, Simon Biles, Photo finish, etc.
September
Personal
On my 20th anniversary officiating football, Joana and I repeated what the boys and I did several years earlier: we officiated a (albeit rec) game together. As I had anticipated last year in the end-of-year publication. Joana decided to partake in the game from a different perspective.
National
On Saturday, September 7th, 2nd ranked Aryna Sabalenka won her second Grand Slam of the year (third overall) by beating American-Korean 6th ranked Jessica Pegula in straight sets (7-5, 7-5)
On Sunday, September 8th, Jannik Sinner defeated American sensation Taylor Fritz further delaying having an American win the Meadows Grand Slam for yet another year. The US Open became Sinner’s second Slam of the year (and career).
Surprisingly, Jannik defeated Fritz in three straight sets making the match one of the shortest ones in recent history: 6-3, 6-4, and 7-5.
Global
On September 19th, Japanese two-way (pitcher and designated player) baseball player Shohei Ohtani became the first player in MLB history to record a 50-50 (50 home runs and 50 stolen bases) in one season. Ohtani would continue his impact in the month of October helping the Los Angeles Dodgers reach and play through the post-season.
October
Personal
Space X
On October 13th around 7:25 AM, we witnessed history in the making in South Padre Island. The successful launch of the fifth SpaceX Starship was a feat in itself; however, the most amazing experience was witnessing the successful return of its booster back to its launch base where it had taken off five minutes prior. Relive it here where every detail is explained.
Meanwhile, the ship continued its way around earth and re-entered the atmosphere to land in the Indian Ocean.
Greek Super League
Jogo made his official Greece Super League (and European first division) debut on October, 6th in an away game against Levadiakos. Paok FC defeated the home team by a score of 2-0. In October, Jogo also debuted in the Greece Cup (round of 16) on October 30th. This is the 2nd country where he professionally partakes of the Cup competition -Copa del Rey). In this game, Paok FC prevailed over Egaleo by a score of 3-0 with a solid showing.
National
On October 23rd, Lebron James (39) and his son Bronny (20) made history by becoming the first father and son to play in an NBA game together. The duo shared the court for about 150 seconds. The Los Angeles Lakers defeated the Minnesota Timberwolves by a score of 120-113.
Global
Tennis:
On October 11th, 38th year old Rafael Nadal announced that the Davis Cup in the month of November would be his last tournament before retirement.
Commonly known as the king of clay due to his dominance on that surface, Nadal climbed up to the #1 ATP world ranking for the first time by defeating friend and rival Roger Federer in the epic 2008 Wimbledon final. This match is commonly regarded as the greatest tennis match ever played.
On October 30th, the Los Angeles Dodgers overcame an 0-5 deficit in game 4 of the World Series at Yankee Stadium to win the game 7-6. In doing so, they swept the series to win their 8th World Series and first one since 2020.
This took place a couple of days before recently deceased Mexican former LA pitcher’s Fernando Valenzuela’s birthday on November 1st. What a gift had it been if the Dodgers had won on his birthday.
November
Personal
Johan had his first assist (somewhat fortuitous) of the 24-24 season. Going into the 2nd FIFA break of the 2024-2025 season, at the time, Eintracht Braunschweig was located just outside of the relegation zone and playing well.
National
On November 14th, the USMNT defeated Jamaica (1-) in the first leg of the quarterfinal of the CONCACAF Nations League. In the second leg a few days later, the USMNT won 4-2. In the semifinal game, the USMNT will face Panama.
Meanwhile, the Mexican national team narrowly defeated Honduras by an aggregate score of 4-2. In the first leg, Mexico lost 2-0 and many thought the team would not make it to the semifinals to be played in March 2025.
Global
On Tuesday November 5th (Super Tuesday), the US people (and the electoral college) elected Donald Trump as the 47th president of the US. Now President elect Donald Trump (with his running mate JD Vance) defeated Vice President Kamala Harris by a large margin: 312 – 226 (270 are needed to win). Trump’s victory defied two assassination attempts, two presidential impeachments, his criminal conviction and many other criminal charges. He is expected to take office January 20th.
December
Individual
The family traveled to Germany and Greece to visit the boys for Thanksgiving. Many memories were made.
National
MLS
On December 7th, LA Galaxy (with ex-FC Dallas players Edwin Cerrillo and John Nelson) defeated the New York Red Bulls by a score of 2-1.
NCAA D1 Women’s
On December 9th, in Cary North Carolina, the University of North Carolina Tar Heels defeated first time finalist Wake Forest Demon Deacons in the D1 College Cup Championship. The Tar Heels have won 23 of the 43 editions of the College Cup.
NCAA D1 Men’s
On December 16th, in Cary, North Carolina, the University of Vermont Catamounts defeated Marshall University Thundering (winners in 2022) with a golden goal by a score of 2-1 to claim their first ever NCAA Division 1 Men’s soccer college cup. The game was high in emotions but low on technical level.
Global
POTUS:
On December 29th, Jimmy Carter (39th president of the United States), passed away peacefully at his home in California. In his attempt for re-election going against Ronald Reagan (VP George W. Bush) in 1980, Carter’s 49 electoral votes were the second-fewest for an incumbent president seeking reelection, with only William Howard Taft in the 1912 presidential election defeated more decisively. Jimmy Carter is the only president to have reached 100 years of age. He won the Nobel Peace Prize in 2002.
F1
On December 8th, Dutch driver Max Verstappen finishes 6th in the season-ending Abu Dhabi GP to claim his 4th consecutive World F1 title.
FIFA
On December 11th, FIFA announces that Morocco, Portugal and Spain will jointly host the Men’s 2030 World Cup, with anniversary matches to be held in Argentina, Paraguay and Uruguay, while Saudi Arabia is confirmed as the host for the Men’s 2034 World Cup.
2025:
As stated a year ago, our intent was to expand our blog coverage to include more content about Joana. We did just that for the first six months prior to her ACL injury. As she recovers, we’ll pick that up this year.
Now that we have some months of recovery time, we have continued to try to pick up where she left off. She’s beginning to take the sport to a different level this upcoming year.
In December, Jogo purchased his first new car in the states just to have when he’s in town. Although rarely, car conflicts do arise when everyone is in town especially now that Joana became an official driver. I will take good care of it for you buddy 😉
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In late 2023, I first wrote a publication about the shortage of soccer referees in the United States. One of the reasons I cited was the torment of constant criticism that officials undergo on a weekly basis. Adult referees cope with it better; however, for young ones, it is often too much to handle and most abandon the profession. Youth soccer needs referees to grow, without them, games cannot happen. US Soccer has recognized what many of us knew for years. “Without referees, there’s no game. Protecting our referees must become a priority”. Here are some concerning stats provided by US Soccer:
Joana dribbling, me clapping and opponent coach yelling at players and referee
90% of referees report that abuse has increased over the last 5 years
60% of referees choose not to recertify due to harassment and threats
On March 1st, US Soccer’s update to the Referee Abuse Prevention (RAP) Policy (Policy 531-9) took effect. The policy update includes clearer definitions for physical and non-physical abuse -as well as stronger suspensions for reported referee abuse. The updated policy sets minimum expectations for suspensions for individuals who violate the policy.
What the policy does, is to increase the penalties for those who commit offences as outlined by the policy, and following disciplinary action taken by referees under the Laws of the Game. A nationwide reporting structure is currently in development as the next phase (3) of the process, but until this becomes available, referees should ensure that they continue reporting offences and disciplinary sanctions through the reporting process as determined by your local and/or state associations. All the information about the policy update, including the materials for download, can be found at www.ussoccer.com/rap. Here is a summary:
Rules & Consequences
US Soccer is standing firm to protect referees and restore respect to the game. The updated policy includes stronger sanctions for any form of physical or non-physical abuse towards referees. Players, coaches, and parents are encouraged to learn what behaviors cross the line, so they can avoid penalties and help create a better culture for the future of soccer.
Summary
Both Physical and Non-Physical Abuse Have No Place in Our Game.
Suspensions will be for several games or time-based (or sometimes both) depending on severity and circumstance.
Players, coaches, and spectators are all encouraged to report abuse.
Non-Physical Offenses
The penalties tables below define consequences associated with physical and non-physical offenses against referees. The first table contains non-physical offenses of gross misconduct, abuse, and / or assault.
Non-physical offense
Minimum Games
Time
Insulting, Belittling, Insinuating or Taunting Behavior Undermining Referee Authority
2
Harassment, Intimidation, Retaliation, Abusive, or Threatening (Non Physical) Language
4
Aggression, Attacking, Derogatory, Cyberbullying, Doxing or Threatening (Physical / Violence) Language
6
6-24 months
Offensive or Discriminatory Act
10
12 – 24 months
Physical Offenses
The second table contains non-physical offenses of gross misconduct, abuse, and / or assault.
Physical Offense
Minimum Games
Time
Minor or Slight Deliberate Touching 3 1 – 6 Months
3
1-6 months
Pushing, Grabbing, Pulling, Squeezing, Pinching, Lightly Slapping, Use of Object in Non Striking Manner, or Physical Property Damage
10
6 – 24 months
Hitting, Punching, Elbowing, Kicking, Biting, Spiting, Choking, Tackling, Throwing or Use of Object or Any Part of Body (Forearm, Knee, Head) in a Striking Manner
12 months – lifetime
Key Takeaways:
Penalties can be both game and time depending on severity /circumstances
Second time offenders receive double punishment
Third time offenders receive a lifetime ban
More than one offense at the same tim is at least the punishment for the most serious offense
Offenses against minors are automatically subject to a “minor multiplier” resulting in triple punishment
One offense warning per league to be managed by states and leagues collaboratively
Game consequences are inclusive of 1 game penalty for any red cards given
Optionality for 50% penalty for first offense from a minor
Everyone deserves the opportunity to experience soccer without risking his or her well-being. We must protect those in service to the game and we all have a role to play. The game belongs to all of us. To ensure that soccer remains a positive experience for everyone, we need your help to stop referee abuse. Here’s how you can make a difference:
Coaches: Lead by example. Set the tone for good sportsmanship with your players.
Players: Respect your referees, whether you agree with their calls or not.
Parents & Spectators: Cheer for your team, not against the referee. Help create a positive environment
Thank you to all our match officials for their continued efforts, and for doing your part to ensure that abuse and unwanted behaviors have no place in our game. Together, we can make another facet of the beautiful game continue to grow in this country. There is, however, a lot of work for coaches, players, parents, spectators and officials.
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With the proliferation of instant response online mechanisms such as Siri/Alexa, search engines, ChatGPT, etc., everybody is only a voice command/click away from becoming a football (aka soccer) expert; however, there are some aspects of the beautiful game that are not as simple as just “GTS”ing (Google that stuff) information. To aid in understanding one of the most fundamental principles of the game, we decided to put together a mapping of the original football jersey #’s to field positions based on the 4-4-2 formation (depicted below). It is of utmost importance to understand that the variations of the original 4-4-2 formation have forced the original jersey #’s to relocate positions on the field and in most cases even be altered field position names from their original intents back in 1924.
As a bonus of this exercise, we added a little Mexican Spanish translation to it. Here is a quick summary of a translation of football (soccer) positions between United States English and Mexican Spanish. Note: Some terms are “South-American” Spanish derived:
Position # (varies by country)
English name (Abbreviation)
Spanish name
Alternative Spanish names
#1
Goalkeeper (GK) Keeper Goalie
Portero
Arquero Guarda meta Guarda-vallas
#2
Right fullback (RB)
Lateral derecho (LD)
Marcador de Punta derecho
#3
Left fullback (LB)
Lateral izquierdo (LI)
Marcador de Punta izquierdo
#4
Center back (CB)
Zaguero central derecho
Barredora
#5*
Center back (CB)
Zaguero central izquierdo
Libero
#6
Defensive Midfielder (DM)
Contención
Pivote
#7
Right Winger (RW)
Extremo derecho
Volante derecho
#8
Center Midfielder (CM)
Medio centro
Volante mixto
#9
Striker Center Forward (CF)
Centro Delantero (CD)
Ariete Punta
#10
Center Attacking Midfielder (CAM)
Enganche
Medio Creativo Media Punta
#11
Left Winger (LW)
Extremo izquierdo
Volante izquierdo
Positions by jersey number and name
*In Mexico (and all of South America), the typical North American #6 is called a #5.
For an explanation of the main duties (in English) of these positions. See here. At a later point, I may provide a mapping of jersey #s to field positions for other formations such as the 5-3-2 or 4-2-3-1 or other variations.
With so much football going on this summer, we have neglected posting as often. We’ll try to regain our normal pace the second half of the year. Meanwhile, if you have suggestions on topics you would like discussed, let us know. #theGomezway
As we begin a busy year of soccer in the United States (MLS, USL, NWSL, Gold Cup W, Nations League, Copa America, etc.), refereeing takes central stage. That’s not only because the MLS referees are currently on a lockout but because soccer officiating is beginning to gain the attention it deserves as a profession. There are opportunities in refereeing opening up for “the ambitious”…
Last year, I wrote this post about the shortage of referees in the US. In it, I explained the annual certification process and how its length could be detrimental to referee recruitment and retention. Now, in my 20th year of soccer refereeing, here is how the process looks for a North Texas Referee. It’s NOT any shorter but the truth be told, the refresher material is very relevant (even for experienced referees). Below is a checklist of the process with its brief explanation:
Required background check and clinic registration (National)
Welcome (State Association: North Texas)
Intro to Safe and Healthy Playing Environments (National)
Safesport (National -18 years of age minimum)
Laws of the Game (National)
Law Changes Review (National)
Referee Code of Conduct (National)
Referee Refreshers (2) Assignment (National)
Online Test (National)
Required Background Check
In order to register with your corresponding state association (in my case North Texas (NTX)) and the US Soccer Federation (USSF), the referee candidate (if 18 years or older) must pass a background check. The application process in the North Texas System is comprised of 3 steps:
Step 1: Answering a quick (3 questions) questionnaire
In this step, the candidate is asked about 1. prior convictions and types: Felony, Crime of Violence, Crime against an individual, or Fraud. 2. current/desired soccer official type: Assignor, Referee Coach or Referee type (Futsal, Indoor, Outdoor) and 3. Type of registration: Recertification, Upgrade, Fitness Test, Emeritus, Supplemental Training, or Regain Level .
Step 2: Selecting an online clinic
Based on the answer to question #2 in the previous step regarding desired soccer official type and type of registration, you will have to select the pertinent clinic(s) to fulfill your registration process.
Step 3: Payment of pertinent clinics
In my case, I needed to pay two fees: $40 for the USSF “2024 Referee License Fee” and $30 for the Referee Recertification clinic. Payment is expected at this point in order to proceed. This includes a $10 late fee for not having taken care of this process prior to December 31st, of 2023.
Since background checks have a cost associated with them, the verification process doesn’t really start until payment is rendered and approved. Then, the system will send a confirmation email to the email address in your profile. Also, the system will require “Consent” and “Social Security Number” in order to proceed with the electronic background check.
The actual background check process is performed through a third party website (JD Palatine). The submission of some personal information is necessary to complete the application. In addition to consenting to the electronic background information, the candidate will be asked the state where you intend to work AND where you reside. This process will take 10 minutes to complete and upon its conclusion, another email will be generated. This email contains a file number to check on the status of the background check; resolution to the background check can take up to three weeks to be received by the state association. Plan accordingly if there’s a desire to officiate immediately.
Welcome
This online presentation contains slides regarding the recertification steps starting with the two US Soccer Learning Center modules: Introduction to Safe and Healthy Playing Environments and Safesport. Presentation duration is about 5 minutes
Introduction to Safe and Healthy Playing Environments
This is the description that the US Soccer Learning Center provides about this course: “Understanding and knowing how to react to emergencies is an important part of our responsibility as leaders in the sport. This training will help you identify and respond to common issues that occur on the field; it is good for one year from the date of completion.”
This course mostly talks about having Emergency Action Plans (EAPs) in place and when to activate them based on situations impacting different players, coaches, referees emergencies (ex. concussions. cardiac arrest, inclement weather, etc.). Course duration can vary from 2 to 3 hours.
Safesport
This is the description that the US Soccer Learning Center provides about this course:: “SafeSport training is a requirement of the USOPC for anyone involved in youth sports. This training is provided by the U.S. Center for SafeSport and requires yearly refreshers“.
This training is not required for any individual under the age of 18.” Course duration can vary from 40 to 60 minutes.
Laws of the Game
This is merely a reminder that officials need to have a copy of the laws of the game. Through the 3-4 slides presented, one can either read, download a hard copy on your personal computer or download “the Laws of the Game” mobile application. There’s also a link to the IFAB Laws of the Game website. Duration is 5 minutes.
Laws of the Game changes
This is a summary of the law changes for which the applicant is seeking recertification. Duration is dependent upon the number of law changes or revisions. For 2024, emphasis was on the offside call, deliberate play, and hand balls. As reference, the 2024 duration is about 20 minutes
Referee Refreshers
For the 2024 recertification, there were two refreshers. These refresh courses reinforce material learned in previous years: Managing the game, managing the players, etc. the 2024 duration is 30 – 60 minutes for each lesson.
Online Tests
Four 25 question tests are administered. They need to be completed in one session; otherwise, the test must be started from the beginning. A score of 80 or above must be attained. Duration is variable for each of the four tests.
Minority representation
With Women’s international day celebrated last Friday (03.08), it seems fitting to talk about minority representation in refereeing. Historically, the refereeing circle has been quite limited; the “boys club” in refereeing, as in other circles of soccer, has dominated making entry to the profession difficult for marginalized groups. However, recent assignments to important games are encouraging. One can only hope that these assignments to women (and other minority groups) are more permanent rather than based on annual commemoration of inclusion days or just checking a box. Below are some examples of baby steps:
MLS Match
San Jose Earthquakes vs. Real Salt Lake – September 16, 2023
USA FIFA Referee Natalie Simon was assigned as the Referee, making her the fourth ever female official to work an MLS match as the Referee and the first Black female official to do so.
The most recent female official to work an MLS match as the Referee was USA FIFA Referee Tori Penso (wife of retired referee Chris Penso), who recently became the first USA official to referee a Women’s World Cup Final.
It is also worth noting that the assignments to minority groups should be based on merit and not on inclusion status or checkboxes. Due to their historical limited experience, some of these , minority referees may not be quite ready for the big stage. Tori has demonstrated that her level (physical and emotional) is dynamic to be refereeing important matches consistently. Even at the Women’s Gold Cup, she struggled when game-impacting decisions were required of her.
MLS Cup
Other recent assignments to important matches include.
Armando Villarreal, Referee
Cameron Blanchard, Assistant Referee
Ian McKay, Assistant Referee
Jon Freemon, 4th Official
Kevin Stott, VAR
TJ Zablocki, AVAR
Jeremy Kieso, Reserve AR
NWSL Final
Katja Koroleva, Referee
Jennifer Garner, Assistant Referee (from North Texas)
Kate Wasiak, Assistant Referee
Anya Voigt, 4th Official
Kevin Broadley VAR
Maggie Short, AVAR
Tiff Turpin, Reserve AR
USL Championship
Elton Garcia, Referee
Mike Nickerson, Assistant Referee
Nick Balcer, Assistant Referee
Natalie Simon, 4th Official
Matt Schwartz, Reserve AR
USL League 1 Final
Sergii Demianchuk, Referee
Matt Rodman, Assistant Referee
Joe Suchoski, Assistant Referee
Jeremy Scheer, 4th Official
Bennett Savage, Reserve AR
MLS Next PRO Final
Calin Radosav, Referee
Noah Kenyawani, Assistant Referee
Rhett Hammil, Assistant Referee
JC Griggs, 4th Official
Nick Seymour, Reserve AR
Liga MX
This past weekend Katia Itzel García, officiated the Queretaro vs Pachuca game. It had been 20 years since Virginia Tovar, the first woman to officiate a Liga MX match, was given an opportunity. Twenty years had to go by for a second opportunity. Katia recently officiated the Women’s Gold Cup match between Canada and USA.
That’s all for now. For suggestions on topics you’d like to see discussed, please reach out. #theGomezway.
In the past three months, Jogo has improved his defensive game significantly; as you can see from the tweet below, others are noticing. He has worked tirelessly to that end and his coachability has allowed him to gradually improve. We will continue to work with him in other aspects of his game while trying to maintain the current defensive consistency.
For now, we enjoy and celebrate the fact that he’s able to play (healthy), playing full games, and of course, help his team shut out the opposition (5 consecutive games). Keep up the good work Jogo.
Watched 4 games of JoGo last weekend….he’s not lying about his defense. The right side was shut down in every game I watched. He’s not even allowing crosses in. Looking like he’s grown into his body a bit too. Might be time to buy stocks if you dropped em https://t.co/Dnahi6efhD
2022 left us quickly but not before we added a new member to our family. Now, 2023 is only a couple days away from becoming history; inexorably, we are “silently” leaping (2024 is a leap year) our way to the quarter of a century mark.
As we bid adieu to 2023, let’s recap some personal highlights for the Gómez family, remember some other events of national and global impact. As usual, we try to conclude this post on a positive note with our hopes and expectations for 2024. Enjoy…
January
Personal
USMNT
The year started really well ‘footballwise’ for what would eventually become the best year for the family in terms of national team presence for the boys. Jogo was called to his first US Men’s National Team (USMNT) January camp (and the first one post the Qatar 2022 World Cup). In one of the friendly games played as part of the camp, he managed to play the full 90 minutes against Serbia at ~80% health after having sustained an injury the week prior to camp with his club. We were fortunate that Real Sociedad (RS) released him for camp. This second experience with the USMNT was longer than the first one and we got to see him play once again in beautiful Los Angeles. More on that experience here.
High School “Soccer”/Club Football
Joana made her High School (HS) varsity soccer squad as a freshman and played every single minute of the HS season. That was not a feat in itself but at the end of the season, she received numerous accolades which summarized her successful season.
With club, her team started the year off by traveling to Las Vegas where it captured first place in the top division. The trip, in addition to the football, was very memorable for the family.
National
On January 3rd, then USMNT coach Gregg Berhalter posted the following tweet which quickly snowballed into a series of polarizing events between coach and players. In the months to follow, two interim coaches were utilized as USMNT coaches as Gregg’s future on the field was being evaluated to determine renewal of his contract as USSF coach.
The above tweet would eventually evolve into a series of revelations by Gio Reyna’s parents and Gregg himself. The days following statements by each party were some of the more controversial ones for the USSF which was caught in the middle of it all; however, a few months later, among even more controversy, the USSF reinstated/renewed Gregg as the new (and current) USMNT coach.
Global
On January 2nd, during the traditional Monday Night Football (MNF) game between the Buffalo Bills and the Cincinnati Bengals, safety player Damar Hamlin collapsed from cardiac arrest after immediately tackling an opponent. Cardiopulmonary Resuscitation (CPR) and Automatic External Defibrillator (AED) were quickly administered before taking him to a nearby hospital in critical condition. Nine days after the incident, he was discharged to rehabilitate from home and plans to return to football.
February
Personal
In February (late January really), Johan helped Nico Carrera finalize a move to his then Bundesliga.3 club: FSV Zwickau. During pre-season in August of 2022, Nico had been on trial at FSV Zwickau; unfortunately, a much needed loan from Holstein II did not materialize for Nico then. However, in an early January 2023 league game, a sudden and unfortunate season-ending injury to a starter FSV Zwickau Center Back (CB) resurrected the possibility of the loan. With Johan’s great relationship with American Coach Joe Enochs, the loan transaction with Holstein Kiel was finally pushed over the line. At last, “the compadres” were sharing the pitch again just like the FC Dallas days. Unfortunately, Nico’s debut coincided with the sacking of Joe Enochs as the team was in a fierce relegation battle.
On February 7th, Lebron James, at 38, broke Kareem Abdul-Jabbar’s NBA’ long standing scoring record of: 38,387 points. In a night when the Lakers were playing against the Oklahoma City Thunder, Lebron became the NBA’s all-time leading scorer with 10.9 seconds remaining in the 3rd quarter. The game stopped for over 10 minutes to recognize and celebrate such achievement. Given the popularity of basketball around the world, this event could be classified as global; however, the Super Bowl, normally in that category, and global mother nature events, will always supersede sports.
Global
Earthquake
On February 6th, one of the most devastating earthquakes of a 7.8 magnitude shook up the border between Turkey and Syria. This resulted in more than 35 thousand casualties, leaving millions without a home. Events like these put into perspective the miniscule importance of sports…perspective.
Super Bowl
On February 13th, the Kansas City Chiefs defeated the 1.5 point favorites Philadelphia Eagles by a score of 38-35 in Super bowl LVII (57th). Texas native Patrick Mahomes was the MVP of the game. The game was the most-watched program in American history with an average of 115.1 million viewers. The halftime show, featuring Rihanna, reached a high of 118.7 million viewers. As usual, the commercials stole “the show”.
March
Personal
US U20 MNT
Coach Mikey Varas had one last chance to evaluate the available talent pool for the upcoming U20 MNT WC while the team played against the likes of France, England, and Serbia. Selfishly, I not only had a chance to travel to beautiful Marbella, Spain but in the process, I also visited Morocco and France. It was a very fulfilling trip where lots of memories were captured in pictures and videos. Most importantly, I spent some quality time with Jogo and watched some amazing football.
FSV Zwickau
Johan had a productive month of March scoring in consecutive matches. Here is one of the goals he scored in March against Verl.
National
On March 24th, a tornado outbreak broke out south of the Mississippi Valley resulting in widespread heavy rainfall, severe thunderstorms, and significant tornadoes over a four-day period. The total number of tornadoes added up to 33 with 23 fatalities and damages in excess of $1.9 billion. Five states including Alabama, Georgia, Mississippi, Tennessee, and Texas were impacted by a series of tornadoes. Fortunately, our home did not sustain any damage.
Global
Three small to mid-size US banks suddenly became insolvent negatively impacting global bank stock prices. Silicon Valley Bank (SVB), Silvergate, and Signature bank failed for different reasons.
Over a period of just two days, the bank went from solvent to broke as depositors rushed to SVB to withdraw their funds, resulting in federal regulators closing the bank for good on March 10, 2023. SVB’s collapse marked the second largest bank failure in U.S. history after Washington Mutual’s in 2008.
April
Personal
Mom visited Jogo in San Sebastian and Mallorca for the first time this year. Jogo traveled with the first team several times but could not debut in La Liga. As mom returned home to Texas, Jogo made his way out to Argentina with the US team for the U20 WC where he would have a meaningful tournament.
National
March Madness
On April 3rd, the 2023 NCAA March Madness tournament came to an end. UConn defeated San Diego State by a score of 76 to 59 to claim the 2023 NCAA national title. This was the 5th championship for the Huskies men’s basketball program. As a side note, my running horns made it to the Elite Eight before collapsing against the University of Miami Hurricanes.
Global
On April 20, 2023, Elon Musk’s SpaceX performed the first flight of its Starship rocket from Boca Chica Texas (a few miles away from our hometown in Brownsville). The prototype vehicle became the most powerful rocket ever flown. On November 18, 2023, the second test flight was conducted successfully. We were in town for this one. It’s important to keep in mind that these test flights’ goal is to learn as much as possible from each one.
May
This month saw a roller coaster of events for the family. Jogo’s participation in the Argentina U20 WC was a bit offset by FSV Zwickau’s relegation from 3.Bundesliga and the end of Johan’s contract with the club.
Jogo played in every game of the WC given his versatility (and willingness) to play on both sides of the field. Despite the fact that he didn’t start every game, he contributed with a goal and two fouls which directly led to US goals. He scored this beauty of a screamer in Argentina’s U20 WC first game while I was in the stadium. Great feeling.
Johan bid farewell to the wonderful Zwickau fans with this beauty of a goal in his last home game. It was bittersweet and we have nothing but gratitude towards the strong fanbase of the East Germany club. We know we’ll be back in the future. “Einmal ein Schwan, immer ein Schwan“
ECNL
Joana’s team finished the 2022 – 2023 in first place. She grew a lot this past season. Her minutes and contributions were solid. We are very proud of the footballer she’s become.
National
On May 6th, almost a year after the school shooting at Robb Elementary in Uvalde, Texas, another mass shooting occurred at the premium outlets in Allen, Texas (a suburb north of Dallas). Nine people, including the perpetrator, were killed during the shooting while seven others were injured. The graphic video below is shared to commend the actions of the officer who not for one second hesitated to go above and beyond his “duties”.
Global
On May 20, Manchester City won their third straight premier league title when Arsenal lost 1-0 to Nottingham Forest. They received the trophy the next day and with it, they started a quest for their first treble: Premier League, FA Cup, and Champions League. As luck would have it, they would win up to five trophies in 2023.
June
The month that marked a jam-packed first half of year and the best was yet to come for the family.
Personal
On June 4th, the U20 WC reached its conclusion for Jogo and the USMNT U20 team. There’s a small chip on Jogo’s shoulder that will be there until the next opportunity with the national team as he didn’t get to play much of the last game against eventual U20 WC Champions: Uruguay. When he finally came into the game, the team had a 2 goal deficit which ended up being the final score (0-2). It was a great experience nonetheless with memories that we will all cherish forever.
National
On June 12th, in the fifth game of the NBA finals, the Denver Nuggets defeated the Miami Heat. The Western Conference Champions won their first ever NBA championship. As most would expect, Serbian center Nikola Jokic was named MVP of the finals.
Global
Football
On June 10th, Manchester City won its first Champions League final by defeating Inter Milan by a score of 1-0 with a second half goal by Rodri. With this victory in Istanbul, Turkey, the club started a dominant 2023 performance by amassing five trophies in 2023 (Premier League, FA Cup, UEFA Champions League, UEFA Super Cup, and FIFA Club World Cup). See December section for further details.
Tennis
On June 11th, the Serbian tennis legend, Novak Djokovik, in a closely contested match, won an all-time record 23rd Grand Slam single’s title by defeating Norway’s Casper Ruud in straight sets (7-6, 6-3, 7-5). Casper had reached the French Open final for the second consecutive year unfortunately losing both.
July
Personal
Jogo was invited to take part in the La Liga summer tour in México and the United States with Real Sociedad’s first team to play two friendlies against La Liga clubs. In August 2nd, Real Sociedad faced Atletico de Madrid at BVBA stadium where Jogo got to see his aunt and uncle who relentlessly show him their unwavering support. Three days days later, the second friendly was played against Real Betis in San Francisco.
Fun Fact: A few weeks earlier, Johan had faced Real Betis in Braunschweig, Germany in a friendly and would score against them the goal below. Football has a way to make “things happen”. Johan had a chance to meet Andrés Guardado just like Jogo did a few years earlier.
National
Gold Cup
On July 6th, México and Panama faced off in this year’s CONCACAF Gold Cup final in SoFi stadium in Inglewood, California. In a highly competitive match, México prevailed 1-0 with an 88th minute goal by Santiago Giménez. At last, México retook the throne from the United States who were the winners of the previous Gold Cup in 2021.
Global
Football
After months of speculation about his next career move. On July 16th, Lionel Messi’s announcement to join MLS Inter Miami’s was made official. The hype of this move was of unprecedented proportions globally even before the announcement was made official. I wrote a piece about his effect on MLS two months after his arrival here.
Tennis
On July 16th, 2003 Spanish born Carlitos Alcaraz defeated the four-time defending champion Serbian Novak Djokovic in a closely contested final, 1–6, 7–6, 6–1, 3–6, 6–4 to win the gentlemen’s singles tennis title. It was the Spaniard’s first Wimbledon title and second major singles title overall denying the champion from winning a 24th grand slam title for now…
August
Personal
On August 10th, Jogo received the excellent news that his request for a loan had been approved to 2nd division CD Mirandés. Four days later, he made his debut in a victory over Alcorcón 4-0. Just like in the U20 WC, he showed his versatility by playing his first game as a right winger.
National
On August 19th, the newly created Leagues Cup including all MLS and Liga MX clubs reached its championship game between two MLS teams. In a tightly contested game, Messi’s Inter Miami CF would prevail in penalty kicks (PKs) by a score of 10-9 over Nashville SC. The regulation score ended up 1-1 which forced PKs. It became the first trophy for Messi’s Inter Miami CF for what many expect to be many more to come. Lionel Messi was awarded the top scorer and the MVP of the tournament.
Global
On August 21st, the FIFA women’s world reached its climax. In a very competitive match dominated by England in the first half and Spain in the second half, the Spaniards saw their visually appealing footballing be crowned once again. Their tiki-taka, prevailed over a very physical English team by a score of 1-0. With this title, the Spaniards are the current U-17, U20, and Senior WC champions. Quite a feat that will be difficult to emulate.
Unfortunately, most of the attention would be drawn to this Spanish team during their post-match controversial celebration and all the events that gradually led to the resignation of the president of the Spanish Football Federation.
September
Personal
Mom went to visit Jogo to Miranda de Ebro. He needed some assistance moving and was adjusting quite well to the new club but the field opportunities had not been abundant due to his lack of pre-season work. Expert twitter fans back home were writing off his entire career but he soon proved us all wrong. He continues to work hard after an almost perfect month of October.
National
On September 10th, American youngster Coco Gauff was crowned queen of the US Open winning her first single’s major by defeating Aryna Sabalenka after having lost the first set 2-6. In the process, she earned $3 million.
The next day, Novak Djokovic won his record breaking 24th gentleman’s grand slam title in straight sets (6-3, 7-5, and 6-3) over Russian Daniil Medvedev.
Global
On September 24, Tigst Assefa won the 49th edition of the BMW Berlin women’s marathon and in the process, established a new world record at: 2:11:53. She beat the previous world record by over 2 minutes and 14 seconds.
On the male side, Eliud Kipchoge won the male open division for the fifth time. The video below was taken when Eliu won the 2018 marathon for the first time on September 16, 2018.
October
October was an excellent month for the family. Jogo had an almost perfect month playing full 90 minute games with CD Mirandés and contributing with some assists/hockey assists. On Johan’s side, he once again received the honor of representing the United States with the U23 USMNT pre-Olympic team.
Personal
Johan is called up to his first US U23 camp in Phoenix Arizona. He played against México and Japan scoring this goal but more importantly, he was able to see old (Chumchat) co-hosts and guests. It was a very memorable trip. We caught up with him there as well.
National
On October 1st, the Texas Rangers managed to lose to the Seattle Mariners in the last game of the regular season, relinquishing first place in the west division (and a playoff bye) to state archrivals: the Houston Astros. As faith would have it, the Astros had won a battle but not the war.
In what some would consider an anomaly among anomalies, the next four weeks would see the Texas Rangers win every single road game of the playoffs. In the process, they not only eliminated the Houston Astros in the American League (AL) Championship Series but on November 1st, defeated the the Diamond Backs winning their first MLB World Series (4-1). After reaching and losing the World Series in consecutive years ( 2010 and 2011), the Texas Rangers at last, won their first ever World Series in Arizona.
Global
On October 28th, the world received the terrible and unexpected news that Matthew Perry, who was best know for playing Chandler Bing on the smash hit comedy “Friends” had died at the age of 54 years.
November
November was a good football month for Johan…despite the fact that he had a very dangerous head injury during a late November football match that required several stitches…
Personal
On November 11th, Johan scored his first official goal in Bundesliga 2. With it, his team won an important game in their relegation battle. We hope Johan and club keep up the good form in 2024.
National
During the November FIFA window, Johan attended his second U23 camp in Spain in preparation for the Paris Olympics in the summer of 2024. As a family, we had hoped that the boys could play together with the national team but CD Mirandés denied Jogo’s release.
On Sunday, November 19th, Johan and teammates managed to go see Jogo play against CD Eldense in a stadium near where U23 USMNT camp was being held. It was a very dramatic game that ended up in a tie (2-2) but the most important part of that evening was that the boys got to see each other.
We are hoping that Jogo continues in an upward trajectory in La Liga 2. That way, the U23 USMNT invitations will continue to be earned and hopefully extended. We’ll keep our fingers crossed that CD Mirandés release Jogo next time and who knows? Maybe, the boys will play together at some point.
Global
On November 28th, Henry Kissinger a German-born American diplomat who shaped U.S. foreign policy in the second half of the 20th century and won a Nobel Prize for brokering an end to the Vietnam War died at age 100. He served as the US secretary of state and national security advisor in the presidential administrations of Richard Nixon and Gerald Ford between 1969 and 1977.
December
Personal
Johan scored his second official goal in Bundesliga 2. With it, his Eintracht Braunschweig club finished the first half of the season with two important consecutive victories and continued in a fierce relegation battle. The break should help them recover some injured/suspended players, regroup, and return to action in January hungrier than before.
In an extra long MLS season that started back in February (due to the month- long Leagues Cup tournament), on December 9th, the Columbus Crew defeated LAFC at home by a score of 2-1.
Global
On Friday, December 22nd, Manchester City, won the 2023 FIFA Club world Cup defeating Marcelo’s Brazilian Fluminese squad by a score of 4-0. In its last version showcasing seven clubs (winner of each confederation plus the winner of the host country local league), a UEFA club was crowned for the 16th time out of 20 editions so far. The remaining 4 wins of this tournament have been earned by Brazilian clubs.
Personally, the most impressive feat of this event was that Argentinean National Team Member, Julián Álvarez, at a tender age of 23 years, has won every possible important trophy there’s to be won. This includes the FIFA Men’s World Cup won in December 2022.
Next year, we will expand our blog coverage to include more content about Joana. She’s beginning to take the sport to a different level. In fact, in a couple of weeks, she will participate in her first showcase tournament of the year. She is coming off a semi-severe injury that sidelined her for two months but is now fully recovered. We have been working diligently in preparation for the continuation of her seasons.
As for the boys, they will continue to learn about European football professionalism. They have a great foundation and continue to earn valuable minutes. However, just like Joana, their preventive care habits should be maintained to help them be more resilient to the demands of their respective leagues. We hope they continue to not only accumulate impactful minutes and perform well in order to partake in the camps leading up to summer Olympics.
Otherwise, they will be welcomed back home where they will inevitably continue to play the beautiful game but in a different capacity. See, this year, they started the “Jogos and friends pickup games” anytime they are in town where they not only get to play the beautiful game with professional/college footballers in a friendly manner but also reminisce about childhood memories or catch up with football friends. They have had three great instances.
On a more personal note, next year I will prioritize family time and own health. Unlike 2023, traveling will take a secondary role. As time allows, officiating football matches at a higher level and participating in longer distance running competitions will also be part of my goals. At this point, our only hope is that 2024 can keep up with our plans…thanks for making it this far and hope you have enjoyed it. Until next time. Happy New Year!!! #theGomezway
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Now that Messi has gained a lot of popularity in the US, it seems fitting to talk about his home country. As a first-time traveler to Argentina, there are many things that I would highlight from my recent trip to the latest Men’s U20 World Cup host nation -which was the main purpose of my trip. From the vibrant people and places to the rich cultural and historical aspects, this country has so much to offer.
A direct American Airlines (AA) flight departs daily at 11 PM from the Dallas Fort Worth (DFW) airport. It makes the trip very short if one sleeps through it especially because Argentina is only two time zones ahead of our central standard time.
The duration of a direct flight from DFW to EZE in Buenos Aires is 10 hours and 10 minutes
An all-male flight crew at American is not nearly as efficient and cordial as an all-female crew
Money
Under no circumstances should dollars be exchanged for Argentinean pesos at a US airport (ex. 1 US dollar is equivalent to 280 pesos).
1 US dollar is equivalent to 480 pesos if exchanged in Argentina the same day.
Be careful when exchanging dollars in any city at the famous “Cuevas“. Do it at your own risk. That said, cuevas will provide you the best exchange rate.
Spend all the pesos in Argentina as nobody will buy them back in the US. It’s an extremely devaluated and volatile currency.
Food
Argentines love their meat. Parillas, or steakhouses, are all over the country, and if you’re lucky enough to make friends with some locals, you will almost certainly be invited to an asado. It can be challenging being a vegetarian as the meat served is some of the most delicious in the world. Argentina is major exporter of meat to Europe and Asia. Red wine goes perfectly with meat and the country’s prime wine producing region is Mendoza which we had the pleasure of visiting.
City of Mendoza – Wine producing capital of the world
Argentines
Patriotism is engrained deeply. You will see an Argentinean flag in every corner. Disclaimer: I visited the country after the national team had won the Men’s World Cup where nationalism is at a new high.
The people of San Juan are top notch: welcoming, submissive, religious, and cordial. Overall, I was very impressed with their hospitality.
The people of Buenos Aires, like any big metropolitan area, live a rushed lifestyle. They are not as welcoming, or cordial as the people from other provinces. Survival of the fittest at its best is the motto.
Soccer (Football) is a religion. You will see many murals of Maradona, not so much Messi.
These signs (along with flags) are everywhere. It was very hard for Argentina to accept British defeat.
Transportation
Argentina is huge; have a plan that meets your available time. The plan should help you determine if a rental car is necessary. If so, renting a car in Argentina is very easy; one can do it at the Buenos Aires airport. If you don’t plan to visit anything outside of Buenos Aires, renting a car is not advisable as public transportation in abundant.
The same rental companies you find in the US can be found in Argentina
Drivers can use their driver license from their home country
Driving in Buenos Aires is like driving in any big urban city except that rules are just suggestions
All vehicles are required to have their headlights on; violators are subject to a fine.
Pick up trucks are abundant in Argentina. The pickup truck to car ratio is likely higher in San Juan than it is in Fort Worth, Texas. I was very surprised by that. Other than Mexico, I had never witnessed such phenomenon.
A lot of vehicles (mostly older trucks and buses) have a sticker in the back window that conveys the maximum speed (in Km/hr) allowed for the vehicle. See below.
If flying is the least expensive option to get around, know that a lot of airports outside of Buenos Aires are antiquated with one flight per day and in some cases one flight to your destination only happens every couple of days.
Gas was about 250 pesos/liter when I visited
Roads
Most Interstates (Ruta Nacional – RN) roads are in horrendous shape. Be sure your rental car has a spare tire.
There are toll roads everywhere. Tolls are not expensive but add up quickly. They vary from $100 pesos to $700 pesos (closer to Buenos Aires). Have change readily available.
Most roads are not ‘autopistas’=multiple lane roads; instead, they are single lane roads called carreteras.
Bump speeds are not as common; instead, they have something called “baden“
Football/Soccer
Football is literally a religion in Argentina. Everyone you talk to is a fan (expert) so be ready to be pontificated on the sport.
Messi is not as idolized as Maradona; there are plenty of Maradona murals all over the country
The majority of the first division teams are scattered around the Buenos Aires province. Limited first division football is played outside of a few provinces.
Argentina U20 vs New Zealand U20 game in San Juan, Argentina
Economy
The timing of this post happens to coincide with the increased attention Argentina is receiving these days; Messi’s decision to play in MLS (and his Leagues Cup title last night) has sparked additional interest from people all over the world to visit the South American country. For those who embark on a trip to Argentina, beware that the economy is very volatile, there’s a significant economic disparity especially in the provinces outside of Buenos Aires. Poverty oftentimes leads to crime which sometimes turns into “legal” robbery.
As an example, “trapitos” who are informal workers charging drivers money to “watch” cars in public spaces, can be encountered on free parking streets. When drivers refuse to pay for their service, they might return to their vehicle to find it keyed or damaged in some other way. Trapitos are mostly illegal unless they have an identification card on their chest. Should you find yourself approached by one and unable to leave, the best course of action is to give them a small sum of money. Many times, it can be negotiated down, around the peso equivalent of $0.75
Argentina's share of population living under the national poverty line.
The silver lining is that for a US traveler, the US dollar goes a long way; however, one must be extra careful navigating the streets of Buenos Aires. The locals constantly warn tourists of the potential risks. If you do decide to visit this beautiful country, consider visiting other South American countries such as Chile or Brazil. Also remember that while we may be enjoying a nice hot summer in the states, their winters could be harsh. Hope you found this article useful. Until next time. Be sure to follow us on Instagram. #theGomezway
2023 marks my 19th consecutive year as a certified US Soccer Federation (USSF) referee. It has been a progressive journey; I have had the pleasure of officiating anywhere from outdoor U4-U19 recreational games, competitive 3 vs 3’s, competitive club leagues/tournaments, public high school, Development Academy, to men’s college matches and indoor competitive. Disclaimer: I have never officiated a futsal match.
As I wind down on my involvement on what appears to be my last year, I can say that most of my officiating years have served the following purposes: 1. Develop a greater respect, appreciation and empathy for the refereeing profession 2. Understand yet another facet of the beautiful game. 3. Share acquired knowledge (through organic playing, refereeing, coaching and parenting education) via mentorship of young referees (ages 13-17), players (fans and coaches included) and last but not least 4. Fitness/exercising.
I officially started refereeing during my college years; I only refereed one indoor season as it was very seasonal and realistically, engineering consumed most of my college time. After graduation, I took a 6 year break before I rejoined the ranks and became one of the 100K+ registered soccer referees. However, I quickly understood that moving up the referee pathway (below) was going to take time which I didn’t have much of due to my other academic and corporate endeavors. Unfortunately for the sport in this country, soccer officiating is a profession that very few pursue as a career for many reasons; some of which we will try to root-cause below.
Income
It is important to understand that the best part of officiating is flexibility. Soccer referees are independent contractors; as such, the duration of their work is short, and they normally have the freedom to officiate at times, places and fees of their own choosing. That said, most young referees pursue soccer officiating to generate a stream of income with flexible hours starting as early as 13 years of age. Another advantage is that referees can earn up to $600 (tax-free) in a calendar year without having to report it to the IRS. The below recreational (rec.) referee pay scale (albeit from 2020) can be very attractive to a young referee.
Thomas Moran: Update the referee pay scale in the KSA website
Let’s be honest, pay scales like the one above won’t be sending any adult referees into immediate retirement either. Caveat: Recreational refereeing pay scale is at the bottom of any pay scale. As such, adult soccer referees normally do not enter the profession hoping it become the single source of income. Even for college level soccer referees, the hourly wage (once travel is factored in) is nothing to write home about. In the majority of the cases, adult referees enter the profession by being forced to be around the sport in some capacity: coaching youth, volunteering, having a child playing in the local rec. soccer association or just wanting the best seat in the house while earning some (albeit little) cash. Some use it as a hobby and in some rare cases like mine, we end up pursuing it as a permanent way to give back to the beautiful game. There is however, an in-between temporary category of soccer officials where “hobby meets income source” and that normally belongs to referees whose English is a second language. They tend to pursue the profession wholeheartedly at the beginning of their arrival to the United States but that dedication only lasts until some higher income source comes along.
A few years back, there was a small perk for referees; at the conclusion of the assigned games, a cash payment was rendered at the fields. There’s just something satisfactory about being paid immediately after a service is rendered. However, times have changed with technology. Most soccer associations have now adopted an automated payment system where referees no longer get paid cash at the fields. Instead, they have to wait up to three days to be electronically compensated for their services. Unfortunately, there are adult referees whose personal finances depend heavily on the revenue they generate refereeing over the weekend and having to wait to be paid is just another entry barrier to the profession or its progression. One time, at my local association, it took about 6 weeks for three games refereed to be deposited into my bank account due to a “glitch” in the system.
Those situations described above lead us to conclude that the best hope to have future competent referees resides in the youngsters (ages 22 – 30) whose college soccer playing days are over, still have a desire to be involved in the game, progress through the referee ranks, are financially stable and despite the constant criticism, choose to pursue the career.
Criticism
Mid adult Hispanic soccer coach yells at mid adult Caucasian referee and points at him over a bad call. The players in green jerseys and blue jerseys are watching and listening in the background.
Unfortunately, the brave and ambitious young referees who consider advancing in the profession face the constant criticism from the experts (ex. coaches and fans) which ultimately proves too much to endure at such low wages. The below statement comes from the yearly Grassroots training that all referees must undergo during recertification.
Officiating public high school soccer is more attractive financially due higher wages and a travel per diem. In theory, fans are more knowledgeable about the game since they have been around it longer but the sad reality is that high school soccer is the twitter of soccer; anonymous spectators hiding behind crowds (screen) easily become coaches and experts of the game. The constant disrespect towards the refereeing crew is even normalized by other adults at the stadiums as “teenage behavior”. Spectators from all walks of life become loud critics of the officiating crew showing constant dissent. It’s common to listen to criticism from students, family members, etc. whose background may not even include ever setting foot on a soccer field (other than to kick a field goal). Statistically, constant criticism is the main contributor for younger (more experienced) referees to trump their progression in their careers.
To play devil’s advocate, not all the blame can be placed on “know-it-all” spectators though. Many soccer referees may not possess the adequate soccer background/instinct to maintain the flow of the game or even establish credibility in a game. When it comes down to it, it’s a chicken and egg dilemma. How can more potential referees be recruited if the few brave ones face the constant criticism of the experts? Therefore, anybody (and I mean anybody) willing to undergo a few hours of training is often recruited (family members/friends) by assignors (ex. KSA) and thrown to the fire without the proper preparation. Unfortunately, the lack of playing/watching experience for a referee is immediately evident and the fans pick up on it and magnify its impact on the game. This aspect is exacerbated at the professional level as ex-professional referees are normally hired by tv networks to critique their former colleagues’ performances.
Referee retaliating to player in LigaMX game
Playing/watching experience
The low retention rate of referees unfortunately leads to the desperate recruiting of unqualified individuals. Most referees I officiate with did not grow up playing, coaching or even watching the beautiful game. In fact, here in Texas where American football “is life”, on a typical Saturday fall morning at the referee tent, most referees often converse about American college football games in between soccer games while simultaneous football derbies (ex. Real Madrid vs Barcelona, Inter vs AC Milan, Man City vs ManU) are being played. Soccer has a long way to go to be mainstream in the American culture to reach the popularity levels of other American sports. As a result, most soccer referees are more knowledgeable about other sports, but become soccer referees for a spectrum of reasons, but none really for career advancement or even the love for the game.
The flip side sometimes is that not having played or watched the game growing up, could be an advantage as these inexperienced referees only view the game in a binary way. They then become more purists applying the laws of the game per the textbook. In my opinion, referees who played the game have a more intuitive feeling and appreciation for the game and as a result, allow a greater fluidity of the game. Unfortunately, most referees who did not grow up playing or watching the game do not pursue the profession at a higher level as they do not feel properly equipped (protected) with the tools to succeed.
Another reason that deters individuals from pursuing officiating as a career is the growing recertification requirements. Associations do not make it simpler to desire any serious involvement in it. Furthermore, it’s a profession pretty much monopolized by the referee assignors. In my local soccer associations, if you are good friends with the assignor, he/she will assign you competitive (or your desired) games; otherwise, referees may be doomed. I get it, assignors need reliable referees and in some cases need to prioritize repaying favors to referees who were promised games during recruitment.
Annual certification
US Soccer requires each referee to undergo an annual recertification process. The online education consists of seven modules with an approximate total duration of about 5 hours if taken back to back. However, realistically speaking, nobody takes all this training in one sit-down, therefore, for a working adult, the training could easily take 3-4 days.
Welcome
Intro to Safety
Safesport
Laws of the Game Changes Review
Reference Cards
Grassroots Referee Refresher Assignment
Online Test
Appropriate training needs to be taken (and test passed) corresponding to the current referee level desired at the end of the calendar year. The most basic recertification level is called the “Grassroots Referee License Fee”.
Cost
There is an initial equipment cost to become a referee. Between uniforms, a reliable watch, whistle, flags, etc. a beginner young referee could easily spend $200 to get started. This startup cost is very steep for a young teenager who is trying to make some quick cash. If in addition to that, the youngster has to put up with constant criticism from the experts, it can easily be justified why so many quit within the first two years.
Registration:
There’s a cost associated with the recertification of each officiating grade in the previous section (and a late fee if registered after mid December). The lowest recertification cost is for the Grassroots Level. That annual cost is about $60
Equipment:
Official Sports International (OSI) has a USSF approved monopoly on referee gear. US Soccer has allowed this throughout several decades. As a result, OSI has a huge market share of the referee equipment market domestically. Their merchandise is constantly being pushed/advertised by USSF. The gear is not inexpensive. For example, a short sleeve yellow pro referee shirt is about $50 (the economy version is about $30). You then add socks, shorts, tennis shoes, whistle, flags, cards, etc. and the startup costs for a young referee can easily add up to $200 – $300 in between different color referee shirts (short sleeve vs long sleeve). All that is “conveniently” provided by OSI.
Background Check
In the North Texas Association, anybody 18 years of age or older is subjected to a mandatory annual background check. Successfully completion is a requirement for eligibility to either recertify or become a referee for the first time.
The background check does not take any training time; instead, it requires the submission of some personal information so that the State Soccer Association uses that information to process the background check. If the background check is passed; the training required for recertification can begin.
Safety Certification Courses
Introduction to Safe and Healthy Playing Environments
US Soccer requires a yearly certification of the “Introduction to Safe and Healthy Playing Environments” online module with an approximate duration of 45 minutes. The training is available for coaches, referees, and staff over the age of 18 to ensure adults give some consideration to having an Emergency Action Plan (EAP). The EAP would be triggered in the unfortunate event of a medical emergency. Specific scenarios like concussions, cardiac arrests, heat strokes, and more are covered. Similarly, action items such as CPR, AED, calling 911 are described in detail.
Although the training is a great tool to have (not only for football related emergencies), it does place a good deal of responsibility on adults who may be in an emergency situation. That said, the yearly requirement, which doesn’t change from year to year, is a deterrent for some referees (especially the young ones) to recertify.
Safesport Training
In addition to the “Introduction to Safe and Healthy Playing Environments” training above, US Soccer also requires individuals 18 years of age and older to be “Safesport Trained”. The course contains information about fostering a safe and positive environment for athletes while preventing the different types of abuses/misconducts.
Fitness test
For the very few interested in advancing their officiating careers through the different refereeing grades, annual fitness tests must be paid for and passed in order to prove physical fitness proficiency. There’s an additional cost to undergo that physical assessment during the annual certification periods. Aspiring referees must undergo the fitness assessment on a Saturday morning and preparation is key. Otherwise, it could turn out to be a harsh reality check for those older/heavier set referees. Let’s be honest, it’s no ninja warrior type of course but it’s no cake walk either. Fitness proficiency helps referees’ credibility as they are trying to keep up with 18/19 year old players. Few individuals want to stay fit to advance their officiating careers though.
Assessments
For those interested in advancing in their careers, there are annual referee assessments (at a cost of course) to make it to the next level. These are yearly assessments that referees must undergo in order to re-certify at their current (or higher) level. Honestly, it really helps to “know” the assessor as some referees, given their mobility on the field, knowledge of the game, etc. have no business passing their corresponding assessments.
Different laws of the game
One of the main complains that you will hear from soccer referees is that IFAB annually approves revisions to the laws of the game (ex. definition of a handball). FIFA then, in an effort to make the game more attractive and easier to understand, approve those changes. As the revisions are cascaded down to each countries’ football associations, they complicate the learning of the laws of the game which few referees care to keep up with. As a result, constant education is key to the success of the soccer referee but many fail due to the inconsistent application of the law changes from their peers. To exacerbate the inconsistent application of the laws of the game, the laws of the game also change based on age group, and competition type. Law changes are the only constant in refereeing.
Recreational
The entry level for young soccer referees is recreational youth soccer. Starting with the little ones (U4, U5), it’s by far the easiest level to officiate where innocent referee mistakes can be made and they won’t impact the outcome of a match. Unfortunately, more often than not, you find the parent (not coach) who wants fouls be called because their son was tripped “on purpose” by a 4-year old when their team was already winning by 10 goals.
As older age group games are officiated, the main challenges in recreational soccer become learning the different rules (ex. no heading of the ball, build-out line) AND trying to position yourself correctly on the field. A wide spectrum of playing experience often cause random and unexpected ball touches/bounces which are just unpredictable for the unprepared referee when seeking best positioning. It takes a lot of experience and focus to position (not so much to officiate) these types of games as the player and ball movement is not very predictive. I have always found that more competitive games are easier and more fun to referee; however, with greater fun comes more responsibility and required knowledge and certifications.
High School
High school certification has its own annual costs, assessments, and of course rules (outside of USSF) which in Texas are dictated by the University Interscholastic League (UIL). The rules are very similar to college level NCAA rules. Everything that you can imagine that shouldn’t be changed with regular FIFA football laws of the game is changed in high school soccer. For example, officiating with one, two or the regular three referees is allowed, stopping the clock is permitted and frequently used by the referees, different card colors are allowed, in case of a tie at the end of regulation, overtime is an option, etc. Those are only a small sample of rules that are different that most referees must stay current on to establish credibility.
The annual revisions in high school soccer rules (and FIFA too) justify the recertification process but it’s a deterrent. Simultaneously refereeing club soccer and high school soccer can be confusing for referees as their seasons overlap. This potential confusion could make a referee look like a novice if rules switching is not applied properly. The annual revision of rules (the system itself) makes it very challenging for referees to learn all the different sets of rules of each competition level.
College
Similar to high school, college NCAA soccer rules are very different than regular FIFA soccer’s. At least the referee remuneration for officiating any level of college soccer is generous but nothing to write home about. However, that doesn’t justify the different rules. I wrote the above post about that topic a few months ago so I will not rehash that discussion.
Club
Officiating club is a level above recreational. The laws of the game are similar; however, the environment is more competitive and the fans are more involved. The american “pay to play” model puts additional pressure on parents and players to win at all costs so typically, club players, even at young ages, push the envelope on the application on the laws of the game. Despite that challenge, competitive club is my favorite level to officiate.
Reputation/Prestige
Let’s be honest, soccer is not the most prestigious sport in the United States; that, combined with being a profession that is frequently scrutinized by the “experts” due to the constant (no time outs) decision making need, do not make it very appealing for pursuit. As a result, the United States has very few competent referees that represent the country at the highest level. Hats off to the trailblazers who paved the way for others to follow despite the many challenges cited above.
The future
As somber as the preceding paragraphs may have sounded, the future of US soccer is bright. As the women’s game becomes more popular in the United States and the world, the need for women referees will organically grow in parallel. Qatar marked the first time a men’s finals world cup game was refereed by 38-year old, French native, Stephanie Frappart. The December 1st, 2022 Costa Rica vs Germany match also marked the first time an all-women crew refereed a men’s world cup game. Stephanie, had already engraved her name in the soccer history books by being the first female to have refereed a male’s UEFA Champions League and Ligue 1 games respectively.
US Soccer is gradually growing and has established a well-structured referee program with mentorship programs, quarterly newsletters, continuous education, and other tools to better equip aspiring referees. I am confident that with the right support, the US will see a greater amount and more competent referees not only at the MLS level but also at the world stage level. Will this effort keep up with the rest of the world? We shall see…
My future
The sport has given our family so much that it would be unfair to not give back in some capacity. In full disclosure, I have selfishly used refereeing as a tool to grow my leadership skills in my other life endeavors. It does require a lot of patience, and more importantly thick skin thereby building strong character. Unfortunately, the perks are quickly offset by its challenges making it a tough profession to progress in for a great majority.
Personally, I have found these 19 years so fulfilling as they have provided me a different understanding of the game. As a result, both Johan and Jogo pursued refereeing for many years which proved to be not only a great way to make decent money but doing so in a field they were passionate about. Unfortunately, at some point it became difficult to referee along with their academic and dynamic soccer schedules.
In my current home association, we have an excellent core of experienced referees who have established a young referee mentorship program. Maybe my next phase is to become a full-time mentor. Unfortunately, the current shortage of referees, encourages recently-recruited referees to behave and officiate like experienced professionals soon after recruitment by assuming assignments that are above their experience level . The higher expectations placed on young referees is yet another reason, that soccer associations have such high referee turnover. Just like the sport itself, refereeing requires muscle memory to become competent. High expectations from the fans linked to high expectations from the Assignor/Director of Referees forced upon newly recruited referees/assignors are common deterrents. As a result, most teenage referees normally find alternative sources of income through high school and young adults are very unlikely to start their refereeing careers especially after they have finished a college degree and are entering the more rewarding “corporate world”.
As I wrap up this post, our high school aged daughter is expressing a strong interest in becoming a recreational soccer referee. Who knows? I may stick around for at least one more year (20?) to help her decide whether refereeing is for her or not. BTW, if you know anybody interested in refereeing, visit this page. Until next time…#theGomezway